tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990976127339204216.post6643650202114393667..comments2017-01-28T17:19:05.707-05:00Comments on Fonzi & Erika: What is wrong with me?Erika Reneehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03377107028080937649noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990976127339204216.post-43120012643629298812015-11-19T21:43:04.507-05:002015-11-19T21:43:04.507-05:00Thanks for reading. Always nice to hear people are...Thanks for reading. Always nice to hear people are reading. It would be so much easier to have something to blame this on but there's just not. Sorry you went through it too. Erika Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03377107028080937649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990976127339204216.post-33684506564841177922015-11-18T19:14:56.323-05:002015-11-18T19:14:56.323-05:00Hi Erika,
I just started reading your blog and I&...Hi Erika,<br /><br />I just started reading your blog and I'm so sorry this happened to you. Can I just say that I am not a crier but this happened to me once before also with no real reason, no bad memory. At the time I blamed it on my hormones but I still to this day don't know what it was. Thanks for your lovely blog. I am really enjoying it!Renee Yieldinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07836691983237815040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990976127339204216.post-68825663806612232052015-11-17T08:04:33.260-05:002015-11-17T08:04:33.260-05:00Thanks Willie. I wouldn't have gotten as far a...Thanks Willie. I wouldn't have gotten as far as I did without talking to you and a couple others. I'd like to say there is a memory from my past that has bearing on this but there's not. There's really no rhyme or reason, it just was. Maybe it'll take months to figure out the cause. Maybe there's not one to figure out and I'm overthinking it. What I know is, this won't define me. It may change me a bit for a while, but I won't make it ruin me or us.Erika Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03377107028080937649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990976127339204216.post-39958634884187310612015-11-16T20:32:54.688-05:002015-11-16T20:32:54.688-05:00About a month ago or so, we had an incident in our...About a month ago or so, we had an incident in our bedroom. I have a couple of triggers that bring me back to a place, before ttwd I had forgotten, and now I wish I could again. Anyway it isn't important how it happened really, just that it happened. There were tears and a huge meltdown on my part.<br /><br />The difference being with us is we both knew ( 3 years in) that the triggers exist. Thankfully they are few and far between now for me. But the potential is there and Barney has to remain aware that it is possible, and know what to do if it arises again. As I said to you, it took me a long time to sort out the whys (before this last time) and then longer for Barney to remember them or their potential in the heat of the moment, because it doesn't always happen.<br /><br />So when does it happen? Often when I feel I am sliding away from my husband. It doesn't have to be a huge tumble down the hill, it could just be something slight, but that coupled with the vulnerability of sex or the feelings that a great sex session can leave me with, well can lead to a perfect storm of bizarre emotions.<br /><br />Who knows? Maybe you were basking in the glow and glory of the aftermath and the flip of the switch made you feel like you weren't on the same page as your husband? Perhaps you were confused as to the change in temperature. Perhaps you felt more susceptible to many emotions. Another time from now it could send you into a fit of rage.<br /><br />What is important however is that fact that you informed your husband of what you believe you need if/when this situation arises again. I know my husband was shell shocked for a very long time when the tears would start...and I now know the reason for the alone feeling. The reason makes him even MORE confused....but like your husband, he now has the tools to help me through the latter part, even if he can't always stop the former from happening.williehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01907855123777628267noreply@blogger.com